The Dangerous Territory
By: Jensen Bodholdt
Everyone seems to want to talk about falling in love. Whether it’s how much they love someone, how they feel inside, or how much the other person feels the same way too. Love is a feeling, an action, a bond, a connection. It’s a deep gut-wrenching, chemical-almost, instinct. You can’t help but fall out of love.
I’ve realized that most people want to talk about falling in love, but not most people want to talk about falling out of love. Falling out of love is also an instinct. You can’t help it.
At first, you’re all bubbly and joyous. You’re always on your toes, ready to share everything with your partner. After a while, once the love-birds feeling has worn off, you start to realize the adorable little things, or as I like to call them, quirks. You start to notice how your partner ties their shoes, or pops their gum. When you first realized that you were in love, you were full of endorphins and these blinded you. For some people that’s okay. Other’s not so much.
The dangerous territory, otherwise known as falling out of love, is realizing that those little quirks make you on edge. Things like if your partner tips their chair back when they eat, or if they leave dirty dishes in the sink. The things that just make your teeth grind. This doesn’t always happen, but it still happens. Unmasking, or as I like to call it, removing the blindfold of love, can make you realize how happy you really are being with this person. If that feeling in your gut goes away after your endorphins have settled, then you might not be in love. If you still don’t see your partner as a work of art sent from the heavens, then you probably aren’t in love.
Love is tricky thing, and everybody goes through it. This is why the term first-love came up. Your first love, may not be your last. If you feel like you are in the dangerous territory of falling out of love, just listen to your gut. Listen to your heart, you may be surprised at what you find.
